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Interpersonal skills at its maximum

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When the Prophet’s influence extended after his conquests and Islam had spread far and wide, the Prophet (saw) began sending to various tribes to call them to Islam. Sometimes he even had to send armies. ‘Adi bin Hatim al-Ta’i was a king and the son of a king. When the Prophet (saw) sent an army to the Tai’ tribe, ‘Adi ran away from the battle and took refuge in Syria. When the Muslim army reached Tai’ they found it easy to defeat them as they had neither a king nor an organised army. The Mus-lims would always treat people kindly in wars and respect their emotions, even during battle. The purpose of the battle was to prevent the plots of ‘Adi’s people against the Muslims and to dis-play to them the Muslims’ strength.

The Muslims captured some people from ‘Adi’s tribe, amongst whom was ‘Adi’s sister. They took the captives to the Prophet (saw) in Madinah and informed him about ‘Adi’s escape to Syria. The Prophet (saw) was surprised, thinking how could he have run away from the ture religion? How could he have left his people behind?However, there was no way for the Muslims to contact ‘Adi. ‘Adi himself did not enjoy his stay in Syria and was compelled to come back to the Arab lands. He then could not but help go to Madinah to meet with the Prophet (saw) and make peace with him, or to create some sort of understanding. (It is also claimed that his sister went to Syria to bring him back to the Arabs).

‘Adi said whilst relating his story, “None from the Arabs dis-liked the Messenger of Allah (saw) as much as I did. I was a Christian and a king amongst my people. When I heard about the Messen-ger of Allah (saw) , I despised him and left my people to go to Caesar of Rome. But I disliked staying there, too. So I thought that if I went to this man and he turned out to be a liar, then he wouldn’t be able to harm me, and if he was truthful, then I would know. So I decided to go to him…”“When I arrived in Madinah, the people began to say, ‘This is ‘Adi bin Hatim! This is ‘Adi bin Hatim!’ I continued to walk until I reached the Messenger of Allah (saw) who said to me: ‘‘Adi bin Hatim?’I said: ‘Adi bin Hatim’.”

The Prophet (saw) became overjoyed by is arrival and welcomed him, even though ‘Adi had previously fought against the Muslims, ran away from the battle, despised Islam and sought refuge amongst the Christians. Despite all of that the Prophet (saw) met him with a smile and took him by his hand to his house. As ‘Adi walked alongside the Prophet (saw), he considered him to be completely equal to himself, since Muham-mad (saw) was the ruler of Madinah and its outskirts while ‘Adi was the ruler over the Ta’i mountains and its outskirts. Muhammad (saw) was a follower of a heavenly religion – Islam, just as ‘Adi was a follower of a heavenly religion – Christianity. Muhammad (saw) had a revealed scripture – the Qur’an, just as ‘Adi had a revealed scripture - the Gospel. ‘Adi thought that there was no difference between the two except in terms of power and military might.

While they were on their way, three things happened. As they were walking, a woman came and began to shout in the middle of their path, “O Messenger of Allah! I need your help!” The Prophet (saw) left ‘Adi’s hand and went to the woman to listen to what she had to say. ‘Adi bin Hatim −who had witnessed many kings and leaders - as he watched this happen, began to compare this with what he knew of the actions of kings and ministers. He thought for a while, until it occurred to him that these manner-isms were not that of kings, but rather of the Prophets! When the woman’s need was fulfilled, the Prophet (saw) came back to ‘Adi and they both continued to walk, and as they did, a man came to the Prophet (saw) . What did he say? Did he say, “O Messenger of Allah! I have surplus wealth and am looking to give some to a poor person?” Did he say, “I harvested my crops and I have some extra fruit. What shall I do with it?” If only he were to have asked such questions so that ‘Adi would have felt that the Muslims had wealth.Instead, the man said, “O Messenger of Allah! I complain to you about hunger and poverty.” The man was unable to find any-thing with which to abate his and his children’s hunger, whilst the Muslims around him could barely get by, and hence, were unable to help him. ‘Adi was listening as the man asked the Prophet (saw) his ques-tion. The Prophet (saw) then responded to him, after which he left. When they continued to walk, there came another man who said, “O Messenger of Allah! I complain to you about highway robbers!” Meaning, “O Messenger of Allah! We have numerous enemies surrounding us and therefore cannot safely leave the walls of our city due to the disbelievers and thieves.” The Prophet (saw) responded to him with a few words and continued.

‘Adi began to think about what he had seen. He himself was honoured by his people, and he didn’t have any enemies waiting to attack him. Why then were so many people accepting this religion whilst they were weak and poor?

They both reached the Prophet’s house and entered. Inside there was only one couch available so the Prophet (saw) gave it to ‘Adi in his honour, saying, “Take this to sit on.” ‘Adi gave it back to him and said, “Rather, you should sit on it.” The Prophet (saw) said, “Rather, you should sit on it.” ‘Adi then did as he was told. Then the Prophet (saw) began to break down all the barriers that existed between ‘Adi and Islam. He said, “O ‘Adi, accept Is-lam and you will be safe.”‘Adi said, “I already have a religion.” The Prophet (saw) said, “I know more about your religion than you do.”He said, “You know more about my religion than I do?” The Prophet (saw) said, “Yes! Are you not from the Rukusi-yya?” Rukusiyya was a sub-sect within Christianity with elements of Zoarastianism. It was become of his skills of persuasion that the Prophet (saw) did not ask, “Are you a Christian?” Rather, he circumvented this fact and mentioned something more particular, i.e. the sub-sect of Christianity which he belonged to.

This is just as if you were to meet someone in a European country who said to you, “Why don’t you become a Christian?” And you were to say to him, “I already have a religion.” And he didn’t reply with, “Are you a Muslim?” or even, “Are you a Sunni?” But rather, with, “Are you a Shafi’i or a Hanbali?”You would then realise that he knows much about your religion. This is exactly what the Prophet (saw) did with ‘Adi by asking, “Are you not from the Rakusiyya?”“Indeed, I am,” replied ‘Adi. The Prophet (saw) said, “when you go to war, do you not share one quarter of your people’s gains? ’He said, ‘Yes, I do.” The Prophet (saw) said, “This is not allowed in your religion.” “Adi admitted in embarrassment, ‘Yes.” The Prophet (saw) said, “I know what is preventing you from accepting Islam. You think that the only people to follow this man (i.e., himself) are the oppressed people who have no strength: the Arabs have discarded them. O ‘Adi! Have you heard of al-Hira (a city in ‘Iraq)?”‘Adi said, “I haven’t seen it but I have heard of it.”

The Prophet (saw) said, “I swear by the One who has my soul in His Hand, Allah will complete this affair, until a woman travels from al-Hira to make Tawaf around the Ka’bah, without fearing anyone.” Meaning: Islam will one day become so strong that a woman would be able to travel from al-Hira to Makkah without a male guardian and without any need for protection. She would pass by hundreds of tribes and no one would dare to harm her or take her wealth. This is because the Muslims will become so strong that no one would dare to trouble a Muslim from fear of other Muslims rushing to his or her help. When ‘Adi heard this, he began to picture this in his mind – a woman leaving ‘Iraq and reaching Makkah, i.e. approaching from the north of the peninsula, and passing by the Ta’i mountains where his people reside.

‘Adi became amazed and said to himself, “What will the bandits do who terrorise us and the rest of our cities?!”The Prophet (saw) said, “You will seize the treasures of Kisra bin Hurmuz.”He said, “The treasures of Ibn Hurmuz?”Yes, “Kisra bin Hurmuz, and you will spend it all in the path of Allah. If you live long, you would see a man offering a handful of gold or silver to others but none will accept it.” Meaning: wealth will be so plentiful that a rich man will look for someone to accept his charity but will not be able to find a poor person to give it to. The Prophet (saw) then admonished ‘Adi and reminded him of the Hereafter. He said, “One of you shall meet Allah on the Last Day without anyone to translate the dialogue between you and Allah. He will look to his right and not see anything except Hell. He will then look to his left and not see anything except Hell.” ‘Adi remained silent and began to think.

The Prophet (saw) abruptly said, “O ‘Adi! What is preventing you from saying: There is none worthy of worship but Allah? Do you know of a god greater than Him?” ‘Adi said, “In that case, I am a monotheist Muslim; I bear wit-ness that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is the Servant and the Messenger of Allah!” The Prophet’s face became overjoyed.‘Adi bin Hatim later said, “I have seen a woman riding a camel travelling from Al-Hira till it made Tawaf around Ka‘bah fearing none but Allâh, I have also been one of those who opened the treasures of Kisra bin Hurmuz. I swear by the One who has my soul in His Hand, the third prophecy will also be fulfilled, since Allah’s Messenger has said so!” (Muslim and Ahmad)Contemplate the way the Prophet (saw) dealt with ‘Adi, how he welcomed him, something which ‘Adi no doubt felt. Think how all of his fine manners contributed to ‘Adi accepting Islam. If we were to practice these skills with people, we would also successfully capture their hearts.

Reference: Enjoy Your Life by Dr. Arifi

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